Parenting 2e Kids

You love your child, and you've also lost YOURSELF

❋ Your child is a walking dinosaur encyclopedia, with knowledge to rival a Richard Attenborough documentary, at age 4. They also have regular meltdowns that involve hitting and breaking objects in your home. You try to rationalize this asynchronicity within the context of your peer group and their kids and find no mirrors. You feel alone.

❋ In the car on the way home from school, your kid talks about how stupid they are; meanwhile, you think about the intricate, detailed world, complete with its own language, that they’ve been creating in their Minecraft game at home. Sadness knocks at your door and is quickly replaced by anxiety, as you wonder how you can help your child recognize how brilliant they are.

❋ Big feelings: your kid has them deeply and acutely. At age 7, your child engages you in an ethical debate on your choice to eat roe on your sushi roll. The debate devolves into tears and screams that they “hate” you. You’re left thinking, “I’m just hungry,” and now I need to soothe and regulate my kid before I can eat my fish eggs. Everything feels so hard.

❋ Complex math problems multiple years beyond their grade level are a whiz for your child, and they simultaneously struggle to complete an assignment of grade-level multiplication prompts due to issues with sustained engagement and task initiation. You struggle to find a school setting that both challenges and supports your child at the same time. You start to feel hopeless.

Maybe your child has made it through years of school, masking through their giftedness, until they can’t. Or perhaps, their disability clouds the potential of their vibrant mind. There is no clear path forward. You wonder how to support both their challenges and their strengths—then you get overwhelmed and freeze.

WHAT we do in sessions

We start where you are and not where you think you should be. You have spent so much time understanding your children’s needs and getting them the right supports. Now, we do the same for you so you can be resourced as we dive in. Together, we get curious about your life, so the impacts of ableism, society, the systems you live in, and your own history and environment become clear. We work to develop tools to support you in your reality. Sometimes, we feel like bad parents if we’re frustrated, anxious, or sad about the challenges of being a caregiver. I want you to know that you are not a bad parent. You are a human, with needs and feelings, just like your child.

WHAT getting better looks like

You’re not waking up and immediately bracing for the day. You understand what you need and feel the permission to go after it. It feels like there’s a you that exists outside your child. You’re able to meet yourself with compassion on the rough days. When times get tough, because they still will, it doesn’t feel like you or your family is permanently broken. You can hold the hard times in balance with the good. If any of this sounds like you, you don’t have to manage it alone. Book a free 20-minute consultation.

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*Many neurodivergent children and adults have co-occuring diagnoses. They are AuDHD (autistic & ADHD), PDA, have anxiety and dysgraphia for example. If your child holds multiple identities, know that this is common and that the complexity of these overlapping layers manifests in more demands on your child and more demands on you as you both navigate our neurotypical-oriented society and its systems.