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Parenting PDA Kids
You love your child, and you've also lost YOURSELFYou are exhausted by your child’s co-regulation needs, and you wonder if you have the stamina to say no to your kid’s request for a Lego set you didn’t intend to buy on your Target run. You don’t know if you can mentally and emotionally weather another meltdown right now. You feel empty inside.
❋ Both your kids are in the car. One wants to sing along to the radio, and the other NEEDS absolute silence. When the one who needs silence doesn’t get it, they start yelling and throwing their shoes at you. Your own nervous system goes into fight or flight. You’re trying to care for your kids, yet you feel an overwhelming urge to scream or flee.
❋ You were really looking forward to going to your evening yoga class; your kid sobs and threatens to break things if you leave the house. You sacrifice your class and wonder if you will ever be able to leave the house.
❋ You’re on your way home, and you realize you need to pop into the grocery to pick up a couple of things you forgot for dinner, and your child can’t tolerate the smells, sounds, and lights of the store. You feel stuck.
❋ This is your fifth attempt to meet your kid’s request for a snack. You can’t figure out which snack is the right snack, and your kid can’t tell you which one they want. They can only tell you that you did it wrong. You start to shutdown.
WHAT we do in sessionsWe start where you are and not where you think you should be. You have spent so much time understanding your children’s needs and getting them the right supports. Now, we do the same for you so you can be resourced as we dive in. Together, we get curious about your life, so the impacts of your culture, the systems you live in, and your own history and environment become clear. We work to develop tools to support you in your reality. Sometimes, we feel like bad parents if we’re frustrated, anxious, or sad about the challenges of being a caregiver. I want you to know that you are not a bad parent. You are a human, with needs and feelings, just like your child.
WHAT getting better looks likeYou’re not waking up and immediately bracing for the day. You understand what you need and feel the permission to go after it. It feels like there’s a you that exists outside your child. You’re able to meet yourself with compassion on the rough days. When times get tough, because they still will, it doesn’t feel like you or your family is permanently broken. You can hold the hard times in balance with the good. If any of this sounds like you, you don’t have to manage it alone. Book a free 20-minute consultation.
